Self Development

Overcoming fear

What’s worse…fear or regret?

This is a serious question and I would like you to take some time to think about it…How do you feel after you’ve walked away from something you’ve wanted for so long? For most, there is a deep feeling of disappointment and regret. It’s like something takes hold of your guts and as you let more and more time pass, the grip gets tighter and tighter and tighter. The thought of “what if I did it anyway” consumes your mind for what feels like an eternity. You’re curious to know where you’d be now or what you would be doing instead, had you not let fear take your victory away.

I don’t know about anyone else, but I’m sure tired of allowing fear to hold  me back from what could be the best experiences of my life!

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Since I was a child, anything that made me nervous, uncomfortable, or fearful, I backed out of, always. Now, in my adult life, I wish so badly that I would have done those things anyway. How many more memories could I have made, or people could I have met?  How many more stories or advice would I have for my children now? I’ll never have the answers to those questions, but what I do have now is the knowledge to help my children and myself break the cycle of being held back. I’ve learned that fear is just like any other emotion we experience.

Our bodies need to feel fear the same way it needs to feel love, happiness, joy and the rest. Fear is a signal to your mind that something isn’t right. It’s not 100% sure of what’s about to happen and needs clarification. BOOM ladies and gentlemen, did you catch that? Let me rewind a bit “it’s not 100% percent sure of what’s about to happen and needs clarification”. The simple solution…get more info!! How can you feel comfortable walking through a door, with no clue of what waits for you on the other side?? I know I’m not walking through that dang on thang. Your brain isn’t able to set the proper mood for the situation because it just doesn’t have all the answers.

It is your physical job to go and find out what you don’t know. Once everything makes sense, you’re sure to feel more at ease. Recognizing this will take time and practice. What I want you to remember right now is “feel the fear and do it anyway”. Fear is not an excuse to stay hiding under the covers all day, fear is not an excuse to stay unhappy, unmotivated, or unfulfilled. Fear is not an excuse, it is an emotion. One that we’ve given too much power to for too long.

Remember, you are in control of your life. You are powerful and there is greatness in you. You can do, have and be anything you set your sights on. Don’t allow fear to be the reason you didn’t.


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